I’ve read a lot of opinions on Tiger Wood’s and the problems he has had recently. I do use this blog as a bit of a journal of my thoughts, so I’m going to throw out some thoughts here.
Is it a big deal?
Yes. Sure, Tiger Woods is “just a sports star.” BUT, I’m telling you that children look up to these stars in a great way. Especially when those stars sell themselves as role models. My oldest son wrote a paper about himself earlier this year, and his role models were players on the Reds. So yes, it matters when a person like Tiger Woods falls as much as he has fallen.
I’m young enough to remember the effects that Bill Clinton had on America’s youth. I was in junior high and high school when he was going through his indiscretions. The change his actions had on the thoughts and actions of teenagers was amazing, and not in a good way. From, “I tried pot'” to Monica Lewinsky.
Now, the biggest star of our current time, has taken his marriage and disregarded it in his personal life. I shudder to think what this is going to do to marriage when today’s youth grow up a bit. Especially as some of the gory details come out.
Women’s rights groups react?
Earlier this week I was taking a vacation day and the upstairs TV was on “The Wendy Williams Show”, as it comes on after the news that my wife watches. She was talking about how the women’s rights groups were going to jump all over Tiger Woods. Excuse me?? Last time I checked there were 10 reported women who ignored the marriage vows just as much as Tiger did.
The State Of Marriage…
Makes me sick. I’ve sat and watched several friends go through infidelity. Several, “Christian” friends. Is it that hard to actually stay committed to your spouse? I’ve been married for 12 years and have never had the urge to step out on my wife. We, as a culture, have failed when it comes to honoring marriage so it is no surprise that the very institution of marriage is under attack. Because “normal” is broke. I fast forward my life and, God willing, when I am 60 my wife and I can be that couple celebrating 41 years of marriage… and frankly, I feel like we’d be the only ones there. It is rare today, imagine how rare it will be in 2040.
Maybe I’m being ‘judgmental’, but some things should be judged, and without apologies. There are things that must be fought for, even when you aren’t perfect. Marriage is one such thing.
I’m fed up!
This year I watched a friendship disappear due to infidelity. This was not the first friend to go down such a path, but was probably the one I learned the most from. The next friend will be handled differently. In the past I’ve tried to be a negotiator, trying to get the offending spouse to “see the light” with reason and logic. But the truth is, that has never worked. The next friend will be hit with the truth and realistic consequences of the truth. I’m tired of watching marriages fall apart.